Like it or not, grief changes a person often in profound ways. It’s easy to look at the negative side of how life has been changed by grief, but there can also be positive growth. In his book, Why Bad Things Happen to Good People, Rabbi Kusner honestly shares about how he resents the personal growth that came after his son Aaron’s death, “I am a more sensitive person, a more effective pastor, a more sympathetic counsellor because of Aaron’s life and death then I would ever have been without it,” Kusners writes. “And I would give up all those gains in a second if I could have my son back.” I think, if we are honest, we all feel this way about the growth that can come after loss. But it amazes me how often it is the hardest things that happen in life that can grow us the most.